Hard woman

I wrote a blog that is the counterpart to this one, “How men got neutered.” How men got neutered – Life after death There is no separating this post from the other because much like a body, all parts are dependent upon one another for a functioning whole. This isn’t about gender roles, it’s about essence.

I hear from a lot of men these days that women aren’t women anymore. I hear women say the same thing about men. But what is it that made women not very feminine, more masculine?

We live in a highly sexualized culture, women have been objectified for centuries. In older cultures we were referred to like a farm animal, inquiring whether or not we are able to breed. Our property and sense of self was stripped from us hundreds of years ago by the papacy. Men have been the driving force behind our rape, abuse and being subjected to horrors that shouldn’t be repeated. Men. It’s been men. Women have been pitted against one another in competition, but our abusers have largely been men.

We are in a century where women are finally regaining what has rightfully been their’s all along. Why haven’t men questioned “the way things are,” citing that it is injustice, as women have? Why have men gone along with the injustice? Simply because it is the way it’s been for centuries or because it is to their advantage.

Humans used to have the ability to be introspective, but it has become largely subjective— this isn’t just a male issue. Everyone does it. “If it’s not happening to me, I don’t care.” But this is the error in humanity because what injustice happens to one, effects all because we are One. We are humankind, that is all inclusive. Why would it be acceptable for women to be treated as less, then? Just because of gender? That’s equally as ignorant as treating someone differently because of their religion, race, color, beliefs— you name it.

Why have women become more masculine? Because we had to. We had to in order to restore the balance. If we don’t have the sense that the man that we’re in a relationship with is willing to be the man, we become it because we do whatever it takes to get shit done. I would love for nothing more than to be able to unfurl myself into some loving tender man’s arms because I feel safe there, but I tell you what, I have never met a man with whom I felt safe enough to do that. I’ve never known safe and sadly most of the women I know haven’t either. Safe fights for and protects women. I see men throwing women as a species under the bus, just because they’re a woman. Or they make fun of women for having daddy issues when they forget that a dad is a man. Where’s the accountability? Personally.

No, men should not “make up” for something another man did wrong and no, a woman shouldn’t treat him like he’s the one who did it but at least stop contributing to the problem by trash talking and objectifying women.

For every action there is an equal reaction. Start treating women with kindness and respect. If she wants to be a 3 headed bitch that’s her damn problem and isn’t a reflection of your character, is it? Then walk away…

What I see out there is a lot of bitter men who are pissed off at their mothers and a lot of bitter women who are just sick and tired of being used. I think the whole daddy issues thing isn’t as accurate at first glance, a lot of us didn’t have decent mothers either. We had these controlling, exhausted emotionally starved mothers. So, they either looked to us to fill them up or to fulfill the dreams they never got to live out. Either way, leaving us feeling drained and feeling used. And the father thing, either we didn’t have one or he was drunk and impossible to please or we had one, but he was emotionally checked out.

So, if women have to man up in their relationships, something is missing. Communication would solve it, but most people only listen long enough in order to defend themselves and not even receive what their partner is telling them. I’m sorry means changed behavior, without it, it’s manipulation.

So, women… what isn’t he doing that causes you to go into man mode? Do we not realize that sometimes our expectations are superhuman? Or that our partners aren’t supposed to be our everything? Or that yes, we are supposed to have our own lives? Are we even being reasonable? Are we listening? Are we expecting him to work work work and have NO play? Are we not giving up that ass? What!? What is it that triggers us to go into man mode? Because he didn’t listen— again? Are we speaking clearly and not just dropping hints because hints are bullshit. Are we tired of getting treated like a piece of ass but act like a bimbo with our titties hanging out?

Look, I observe and I speak from my own mistakes that I’ve learned from. The dynamic in every relationship is going to be different but if a masculine woman is your complaint, then there’s a reason why just like how men became neutered. There’s a reason and you won’t get to the bottom of it by continually throwing the opposite sex under the bus and blaming them. It’s you. It’s always you. Just the same with the neutering. It’s you. I don’t want a namby pamby man and I don’t think most men want a chick with a bigger **** than they have— unless they’re into that sort of thing.

The point of these two blog posts is that we need to understand one another enough to get along because the benefit of us fighting all the time fuels the darkness in this world. Do you know how much light erupts from two people coming together in union, who truly love one another? It is incredible! It is powerful. It is a force that cannot be destroyed as long as its nurtured and tended to. THAT is power. That is true power.

Moral of the story; men aren’t the problem. Women aren’t the people. Our lack of accountability is and until that is handled humanity will keep birthing children into doomed relationships that are ever on the verge of break up and we’ll continue to indoctrinate our children subconsciously about how lousy the opposite sex is but you should get married to further the species anyway. It’s awful. This is a hopeless, fruitless endeavor. Let’s make a change.

Blessings xx